Someone’s kink may be bondage, and they may be excited when they’re tied up.
They may have a bondage fetish, and their entire sexuality may revolve around the restraint.
Meanwhile, a turn-on may be something that simply arouses a person.
When we think of kink, we often think of BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism).
BDSM is kinky, but not all kinks fall under the BDSM umbrella.
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1. Impact Play
Impact play means spanking, flogging, paddling, and other forms of striking.
Spanking is often an easy and safe BDSM entry point.
Impact play can range from a light slap on the ass to a crack of the whip.
Please discuss the level of intensity you enjoy (or your partner enjoys), choose a safe word to shut down the action on a dime if need be, and learn what parts of the body are safe to impact.
Stick with the meaty areas, like the ass and thighs, and avoid less protected areas where organs live, like the lower back.
You don’t have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up.
Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner(s), either once or as part of an ongoing fantasy.
The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as anything and/or anyone and indulge your fantasy.
3. Foot Fetish
A foot fetish involves worshiping the feet through different acts such as massage, sucking, kissing, and smelling.
Your girl’s fresh pedicure is always a great time to go to worship.
Dominance is one half of the DS (dominance and submission) equation and it falls within the web of BDSM.
The dominant partner derives sexual pleasure from taking control as part of the consensual power exchange that is DS play.
The submissive partner allows their dominant partner to, well, dominate them in whatever way they please.
Electrostimulation is harnessing the power of electricity for kinky, sexy fun.
Getting shocked can be dangerous, yes, but light electrostimulation will stimulate the right nerves to provide sexual pleasure.
Electrostimulation is when you shock the genitals, hips or nipples by rigging them to electrical contraptions—typically either a wand or a system that stimulates nerve endings called a “transcutaneous electrical nerve endings stimulation” unit.
6. Anal Play
You don’t need to have an anal fetish to engage in anal sex, but plenty of people do specifically get off on the ass.
Anal play can range from adding a finger in the ass during penetrative vaginal sex to using butt plugs to having anal sex with a penis or a dildo.
Urophilia is a fancy name for water sports, golden showers, or the more direct name, pee play.
There are lots of things you can do with urine, though the most common way to enjoy pee is to give or receive golden showers.
A golden shower is, well, letting someone shower you (or vice versa) with their pee.
8. Pregnancy Fetishism
Aside from the fact that orgasms and having sex near a due date may help induce labor, there are also those with outright pregnancy fetishes: sexual attraction to a pregnant person.
Some partners may indeed discover they have one when their partner is expecting, but others are attracted to the rotund pregnant belly regardless of whose body or baby it is.
Pregnancy fetishists go wild for the sight of a swollen, round belly.
The attraction may also include an interest in lactation, or other symptoms of pregnancy.
A voyeur is someone who derives sexual pleasure from watching others get fucked.
Exhibitionists enjoy being watched, and voyeurs enjoy watching.
The next time you have friends come over, put it in your truth and dare game and watch the magic unfold and the juices flow.
10. Wax Play
Candlelight is fantastic mood lighting, but you can also use the melted wax for painfully good sexual pleasure.
Wax can be dripped on the entire body the chest, nipples, stomach and lower back are some of the best places to stimulate arousal.
Gagging refers to lightly choking on an object to the point of making gagging sounds.
Often, men will get off on their partner gagging on them when she deep throats that dick.
Try laying on your back at the edge of the bed and let your man stick his dick down your throat…gag away baby.
It doesn’t necessarily take a giant object to induce gagging—something smaller can do the trick too.
Bondage is when one partner restrains the other.
It’s usually a form of dominance and submission and falls under the BDSM umbrella.
You can bind your partner using objects you already have around, such as a belt, or purchase a rope or handcuffs.
To engage in restraint play safely, establish boundaries and a safe word, emphasize consent and communication at every step, and start slow.
13. Group Sex
Group sex is getting it on with more than three persons.
Now group sex can either be an orgy or a gang bang. As a couple, I’m sure an orgy is the better option.
An orgy is when a group of people of all genders have sex, while a gang bang typically refers to one person having sex with more than two members of another gender.
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14. Sensation Play
Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli.
For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation.
You may drag an ice cube along their skin or crush it in your mouth as an aid for oral pleasure, this form of sensation play is known as temperature play.
When it comes to giving sensation, think of everything from tickling your partner with your hands or a feather to biting them.
This is when your stimulate sexual arousal and pleasure by inflicting pain, suffering or humiliation.
This would be the upgrade to Impact Play and so a safe word is definitely needed.
However, the hotter the pain the nicer the pleasure the harder the orgasm.
Remember, regardless of your fetish or kink, consent is paramount.
Kinks and fetishes are fertile grounds for misunderstandings if consent is not explicit.
Fetishes that are repressed rather than expressed can take their toll on both individuals and relationships.
As long as the desire is safe and based on consent from everyone involved, everyone deserves to pursue theirs.