We never thought this could happen to us.
It took us all by surprise and it decided that it will not stop until it has drastically changed our lives forever.
Coronavirus has forced us to change on so many levels and it wouldn’t have felt satisfied until it messed or tried to mess with our sex lives.
This force we continue to endure to adhere to social distancing and self-quarantine has its advantages and disadvantages but let us be real if our vaginas and penis’ could talk they would be mad at us.
For some of us, this doesn’t affect you because you may be married or living with your spouse.
Kudos to you! In case you’re trying new things (well you should be) remember 8 Bondage Sex Tips For Beginners
For the rest of you who–may be single, is/was dating someone else’s partner/spouse, can’t stand your partner/spouse so you are quarantining at a different location, or maybe stuck in another country and away from your partner/spouse;
Whatever the reason is, and you know you fall into one of those categories–phone sex is a practice we need to now try and learn and/or master.
Coronavirus does not equal to a boring sex life, who picks that? Certainly not me!
In a world where sexting reigns supreme and FaceTime allows you to see whom you’re talking to in HD,
The concept of phone sex seems as outdated as a landline telephone.
But phone sex can be increasingly hot if you know how to have it.
What does this really mean?
Phone sex is talking through sexual acts or fantasies over the phone while you and your partner masturbate.
Phone sex is a great way for any and all couples to spice things up because that novelty is like an aphrodisiac for your brain.
It’s sexy, it’s intimate, and albeit a lil awkward, it’s the best way to keep the physical part of your relationship solidified.
But exactly how to have phone sex can feel daunting, since it combines two uncomfortable acts (for many women, at least): narrating sexy deeds AND vocalizing personal fantasies.
17 Tips To Help Your Phone Sex Soar
- Establish consent
First, you’ve gotta establish that you and your partner are both into the idea.
Say something like, “I’ve been thinking it’d be nice to try phone sex and share what we’d both do to each other if we were together,”
Come up with a list of role-play fantasies, playthings, spanking specifics, etc. and ask your partner over the phone if it’d be a yes, no, or maybe for them to try on you.
Some ideas to start with: light biting, bondage, lap dance, orgasm denial, rimming, - Build up the suspense for phone sex
Set the stage for your evening phone-sex date by teasing your partner.
Use your phone time as an opportunity to describe exactly what you’re wearing, what you look like, how flushed your cheeks are, and exactly how you’re touching yourself.
And if your partner is up to it, consider talking about a time you had sex with your partner as if your partner were watching.
- Get submissive or dominant
Making your partner dictate where and when you can touch yourself is a great way to make phone sex more interactive and include both parties.
This will not only control the flow of conversation, but it’s also sexy to role-play in that submissive or dominant state.
Then, when you hear your partner responding to your commands, switch it up, and make them take the reins.
- Eliminate Distractions
That laptop on your desk? Close it? Your door? Lock it.
Your partner deserves your undivided attention during phone sex just as much as during regular sex, if not more since it’s harder to get into the mood. - Set the stage
Mood matters during regular sex, and it matters during phone sex.
Light a candle http://www.mia-rocio.com/shop. Change your sheets. Wear your sexiest lingerie.
This will also help you describe the (sexy) scene to your partner.
- Use toys
Don’t be afraid to break out your fave toys to help stimulate your vagina while you’re talking to your boo on the phone.
Explain the details of what you are using and how you are using them to your partner.
Toys can increase the likelihood of orgasming and allows for more areas to be pleasured while on the phone.
Put the buzz up to the speaker so your partner can hear exactly what you’re playing with.
- Start with Sexting
Slow progression is always the right progression.
Ease into the phone text, and the best way is to start by sexting 20 Sexts You Can Use With Your Partner
Sexting will most time lead to phone sex but at least if it doesn’t let your words tantalize your boo. - Keep it simple
Whatever feels good coming out of your mouth is most likely going to do a number on the person you’re saying the words to, okay?
So don’t worry about whether or not you’re using the “right” or “sexiest” words.
Keep your statements simple and don’t worry about overly flowery language.
Part of phone sex can be, ‘You make me hard’ or ‘I wish I could see you naked.’ - Be vocal
Draw out your words using soft whispers and sprinkle in a few playful sighs here and there while you’re talking. It helps if you’re already turned on before you talk on the phone.
That way, you’re not going from “Listen to this annoying ass thing that happened to me at the work today” to “You like that?”
When in doubt, just moan. - Listen to your partner and to your body
By paying close attention to everything your partner says and does—including their breathing patterns.
You’ll have a better idea of whether or not you’re hitting the right buttons.
The quicker the pace of their breath, the more likely they are on the verge of finishing.
Noticing how excited they’re getting should (hopefully) turn you on even more.
If you’re shy, your partner might only need to know that you’re a willing participant to take off and lead for you.
- Close your eyes
It can be easier to walk through an experience if the only things you’re focusing on are your partner’s voice and your own body’s sensations, such as the tingling from your vibrator.
- Roleplay
Another way to lead your partner into it if you’re both feeling awkward is to set up a role-play scenario. Imagine your partner is a sex robot you can program to do whatever you want.
What do you program them to do?
Feel free to get creative with your voice, such as opting for a higher pitch tone for a “school girl” or a lower one for a “dominatrix.”
Men can also try a higher innocent pitch to be a very naive nerd looking to break his virginity or a lower tone for a strong authoritative master. - Reminisce about the past
If you’re not sure what to say or where to begin, bring up a sexy memory that you and your partner shared together.
Or that one moment when you really felt like kneeling down and eating her or leaning over to his car seat and blowing him. - Explore new places
Maybe you hate the outdoors.
There’s nothing stopping you from exploring a phone-sex fantasy.
Getting fucked in a raft on the lake when the lake…is in your mind.
Think of as many different scenarios as you can.
The library, the back of your car, Paris, in an airplane, at a Costco/Bascho, etc.
For sexy situations, you can try–caught with an erection, caught masturbating, being alone in a castle, deserted beach, or BDSM party.
- Embrace the digital age (or not)
Using your imagination is part of what makes phone sex so hot, but don’t forget that you’ve got more video tools at your disposal than ever.
Why not start with a little phone action, then switch to video chat sex when things get heated?
Your game, your rules.
Feel free to tell your partner that this is a visual-free zone if that’s what you’re comfortable with. - You are in this together
Whoever climaxes first should ideally stay on the line until the other reaches the finish line, too.
Or, at least end the convo at a stopping point that works for both of you.
Abrupt endings are the worst.
- Pillow Talk
It’s important to reconnect after phone sex with laughter and wind-down talk after you both orgasm.
Make sure you both block out enough time to do this after things get hot and heavy on the phone.
Although phone sex quickies can be just as hot too.
No matter what, staying true to you is always the best option.
However, a little guidance never hurt anybody.
And yes there are the ones that think phone sex is beneath them. It is out here working though.
Remember love bugs: If you start to get in your head (“I feel ridiculous” or “This is kinda weird”)
Go back to your own heart rate, breath, and even body temp.
This will help you stay present and in the mood.
Now go send a text!
