When last have you spent some time fingering that pussy?
We always want to learn about pleasing our partner, pleasing ourselves.
A handful of us, believe that it can’t be done without stimulants whether that’s another person, toys, or probably alcohol.
Let’s go old school and try to understand, how some of our greatest sexual tools are the ones we were born with.
Yes, let’s get to learning or improving the use of our digits.
When I think of fingering, I think of being in the back of a movie theater getting felt up by a high school boy who acted like his finger was a tiny penis.
Just because teenage boys (and some grown men and/or women) can fail so miserably at fingering doesn’t mean that educated adult human beings can’t make it feel really awesome.
And in some cases, a preferred sex act.
In this age of awkward boob-twisting (they’re not doorknobs) and shower sex that didn’t pan out as you’d hoped (Does it ever?), fingering is a lost art.
What is Fingering?
Fingering, also known as finger-banging (or, if it is an old-timey TV sitcom, third base), refers to a person using fingers to stimulate the clitoris of a woman in order to bring her to orgasm.
It can also refer to inserting one or more fingers into a woman’s vagina( 10 Reasons To Try Fisting ) to achieve the same end, though that will be significantly harder, as most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.
Plus, it’s not just for women: Fingering can also refer to inserting fingers into someone’s ass. However, that is for another discussion. hehe
In order to finger someone, I recommend using lube and experimenting with the speed, depth, and number of fingers.
Fingering can be a nice warm-up before intercourse to get lubrication going.
Although popular in foreplay, it can also be a complete sex act by itself.
My number 1 rule, however, is to remember to trim your fingernails first or for the ladies, learn how to use the tip of your fingers when you have on those nails.
Are you ready for the mini refresher? let’s bring back the art of good fingering.
6 Tips To Remember When Fingering
- Don’t just jackhammer her with your finger. Alternate between inserting your finger inside her, and caressing her clit and vulva. Use gentle, circular motions on her clitoris or lightly tap with your finger.
You can rub up & down, side-to-side or at another angle. - You need to rub her clitoral hood.
That’s the small bit of skin covering her clit like a foreskin covers a penis. - Internally, you should always try the beckoning, “come hither” motion with your finger.
This is the curling of your index and middle fingers gently back and forth inside her vagina. - Â Finger with a cause and that is finding the G or A-spot.
Her G-spot is located around two inches inside her vagina.
If you slide your fingers in and curve them around her pubic bone, you should find her G-spot.
This spot is actually a place where you can access her clitoris internally.
So when you rub her pussy inside and her clit outside, she’s getting pleasure from both directions. - There is not only one fingering position.
Have her lie on top of your fingers (or hand) and push herself against it.
This is a great way to feel for her G Spot. If it feels like subtle ridges or grape-like bumps, you found it! - Lubrication is necessary for successful fingering.
Now you have choices, the pre-cum from her vagina, your saliva or actual tasty lubes.
Choose one and don’t be a hero because that friction on our clit will get you no pussy for days.
Now I did say earlier that fingering can extend to the anus as well.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but…
You need to be aware that the anus doesn’t self-lubricate itself like the vagina does, so you’re going to need some lube. Saliva will usually work fine, but keeping some lubricant nearby is a good idea. (Jergens is the real MVP)
Coat your finger and the outside of the ass with some lube, then slowly press your lubed finger in.
Make sure to take it extra slow and listen to the feedback (both what the body says, and what your partner says).
The sphincter (is a circular muscle that normally maintains constriction in the bottom hole) takes a while to relax, so if you force your finger inside before it’s relaxed, then it’s going to hurt.
Instead, you should maintain a soft pressure to allow the sphincter to relax around your finger. Once it does, then you can slowly push it in and out.
Fingering, just like eating pussy (Â 10 Steps To Improving Your Eating Game ) and sucking dick, (Â 10 Tips On How To Give A Successful Blowjob ) it’s an art.
Take your time and do it right.
As the Artiste, Shenseea says in her song Foreplay “Put it in a me region, use two if you feel like one is uneven”
