Are you a Voyeur?
If you’re like most people, you’re a visual person.
Not to say that you have the gift of sight, but rather you’re someone for whom a visual can go a long way towards stimulation.
Fetishes come in a lot of different shapes and sizes.
I mean, not literal shapes and sizes, but you know, they range from person to person.
ever heard of voyeurism?
To some extent voyeurism is widespread;
various types of sexual displays are a normal part of sexual attraction and mating behavior in humans.
But voyeurism is considered a deviant behavior when observation ceases to be merely one factor in sexual attraction and
becomes the sole or primary source of gratification.
The risk of being caught is an additional element in the excitement of the voyeur.
What is Voyeurism?
Voyeurism is getting sexual excitement from watching others when they are naked or engaging in sex acts.
And while the pleasure is most commonly derived from watching others, the fetish could also include hearing others engage in sexual acts
or even being told about other people’s sexual experiences.
So, no, it’s not the creepy, nonconsensual Peeping Tom who might come to mind.
Voyeurism is a fetish and actually one of the most common ones.
Who is a Voyeur?
A voyeur is someone who experiences pleasure from watching other people partake in sexual acts.
Maybe you’ve already decided this is absolutely not your thing, but
one could argue the enjoyment of watching porn is, in part, voyeuristic
after all, most people masturbate when they watch other people have sex on their screen, yeah?
So, it’s fairly common to be at least slightly interested in this sexual fetish.
We all experience different turn-ons and turn-offs in the bedroom, so it really depends on what someone likes and engages with.
What Is The Difference Between Good Voyeurism And Bad Voyeurism?
Put simply, consent.
I use voyeurism as an example of a fetish that can be done in a fun and consensual way or in a non-consenting and harmful way.
The voyeuristic disorder is actually in the diagnostic manual for psychiatric disorders, in which it is described as
a persistent and intense sexual interest in spying on unsuspecting people nude or having sex.
So in other words, make sure every sexual act you engage in with your partner has been consensually agreed upon and communicated beforehand.
Good voyeurism = consent and communication about what you will be doing with every sexual partner.
Bad voyeurism = doing something behind your sexual partner’s back.
If you’re a budding voyeur with a spouse or serious partner,
getting started is as simple as speaking with your partner about what turns you on,
and then collaborating on making it happen with some of these simple tips and tricks.
9 Tips You Can Use To Incorporate Voyeurism In Your Relationship
There are so many different ways to spice up your sex life especially with voyeurism.
Have your partner undress in a different room as you peep through a cracked open door or from the closet.
A spicier version of this is having your partner get themselves off in one room of the house while you watch from a window or through a keyhole,
making this a voyeuristic variation of mutual masturbation.
- Watch your partner masturbate.
- Watch your partner shower or take a bath.
- Bring in another person to watch you and your partner have sex.
- Bring in another person to watch your partner have sex with.
- Setting up mirrors
Take mirrors and set them up in different areas of the room, angled in order to see you and your partner from different vantage points while making love.
- Make a sex tape
- Visit strip clubs together
- Go on a vacation
Nudist resorts or sex vacations are a great place to meet like-minded couples who enjoy the same activities as you do.
If your partner likes the idea, take off for a weekend to a resort where there are no compulsions to strip down and see if you like what you experience.
If you’re intrigued, it’s time you give it a try.
But again, for all the people in the back:
Consent is the key, key, key factor here.
There’s a voyeur in all of us,
but how far we go to see what we want to see makes all the difference between a person who’s addicted to voyeurism
and a casual voyeur who peeks at something when the opportunity presents itself.
Voyeurism is more of a male obsession than a female interest.
Men are extremely curious when it comes to female anatomy.
A woman may never understand this sexual fetish of men and their uncontrollable urge to take a sneak peek
at a woman in her bare minimum if they can get away with it.
Hey, I don’t think men understand their fascination to peep at women too.
But truth be told, I can’t stress this part enough, all of us, men and women, have a little bit of a voyeur in us.
If you see an attractive girl with heaving bosoms bending low in front of you, you can’t help but take a quick peek out of curiosity.
We may not stare at a plumber’s butt crack with the same fascination, but when we find something appreciative, curiosity always gets the better of us, and we all want to see more.
The voyeuristic side in us all stays within control because human society has trained us to look at voyeurism as a perverse act.
But if your friend was out of town for the weekend and you were taking care of her house
and found a homemade sex tape of her, wouldn’t you watch it “just for fun,” of course?