No two people are alike.
Even identical twins have varying idiosyncrasies that set them apart from their mirror images.
That is why, when it comes to turning on a new partner or finding a way to become aroused yourself, there is no one-touch-fits-all methodology that works.
Instead, discovering your own fetishes – no matter how seemingly harmless and simple or outlandish
It is essential for having a healthy, indulgent, and fulfilling sex life.
There are so many different types of fetishes and one that is widely talked about and rarely understood–the foot fetish.
There’s nothing wrong or sinful about being attracted to feet.
Just like some men prefer a woman’s ass to her breasts, and others go crazy over long legs or a lush, full head of hair, other men find feet to be alluring.
Now if you find yourself having these fantasies, do not worry.
The more you can learn about your foot fetish, the more empowered you will be to act on it.
What Is a Foot Fetish?
Though references in comedies or some poorly-created pornos, they might suggest that a foot fetish is only for the freaks-and-geeks of the world. That is not so.
Foot fetishes are actually pretty common and rather simple.
Foot fetishism also referred to as podophilia, is a heightened and specific sexual interest in feet and/or footwear.
It is the most common form of sexual fetishism for otherwise non-sexual objects or body parts and is more prevalent in men than women.
Foot Fetish In Your Sex Life
For someone who has a foot fetish, bare feet can feel way more erotic and intense than seeing a woman naked.
That is because that specific part of her body has the same power over them that other men might find less hot than, say, the curve of her back.
When a man is a part of a relationship where his girlfriend accepts his foot fetish, it means that they will both make an effort to incorporate foot play into their routine.
This means a person who has a foot fetish also may get sexually excited by licking the feet, smelling the feet and toes, having their partner step on them, using the feet to stimulate their penis and balls, or rubbing feet.
With foot worship, it can even be the man at the woman’s feet, literally.
It can also involve anything that touches the feet, like shoes, socks, or dressing the feet up or binding them.
4 Possible Causes of Having A Foot Fetish
- Early experience with foot
This theory suggests that one may develop fetishes in response to erotic associations.
If you had an early erotic experience that involved feet, your brain and body may have created a lasting erotic association.
This may be considered a Pavlovian response.
- The desire to be submissive
For men with a foot fetish, it may be the only thing that gets them aroused.
Either touching the feet, fantasizing about it, or talking about it.
Some men have said that they want to be submissive to a woman’s foot, lay at her feet, rub, touch and smell her feet and toes, and lick them.
- The disgust of feet
Another theory suggests that your foot fetish may have more to do with disgust.
As arousal levels heighten, your disgust instincts become less sharp and you no longer respond as strongly to disgust.
This altered state of perception allows you to engage sexually with objects that you might normally find off-putting – like feet.
- No Specific Cause
Having a foot fetish might just be part of who you are and part of what makes you tick, with no special reasoning behind it.
How to Incorporate Your Fetish Into Your Sex Life
- The first and most important step is to come to terms, as a person, with your fetish.
This might mean talking to a therapist or interacting with other people who have a foot fetish to become more comfortable with your sexual desires.
Own it. Do not apologize. Do not be embarrassed. You are perfectly normal.
You shouldn’t have to apologize for your natural inclinations and desires.
- Being very selective about who you date.
Sexual compatibility is about being similarly open-minded; it is not about having the same desires but respecting one another’s desires.
If your partner judges you and isn’t willing to work through this judgment (this is their job – not yours)
You are not sexually compatible.
- Shower her with gifts.
For you, that isn’t lacy, seductive lingerie, or a nightgown … but it is shoes. Or a pedicure.
Give her a treat from time to time, in this regard, like new shoes!
- Work it into the sex play so that it is fun and do not make it the object of the sexual encounter.
This can be worked into foreplay by kissing from top to bottom, ending with the foot.
You can also massage the foot with warm soy oil and giving her a foot massage, which is great for her and part of the foreplay for you.
- Submissive playfulness
If you are into submissive foot play, be her pet for the day, laying at her feet, offering her massages, smelling, licking, touching.
If she wants to, have her step on you from time to time.
The biggest goal is to make the foot fetish seem less all-encompassing and more a part of a healthy sex life that turns you on, while also focusing on all of the things that get your partner going.
After all, your intimate relationship should never be one-sided.
That being said, you must be respectful of your partner’s boundaries and be willing to take it slow.
It is going to be a learning process, especially if she’s never been with someone who shares your same fantasies.
If she enjoys you worshiping her feet, you are all set.
If she is reluctant, you may need to take a gentler and more long term approach.
The taboo element of this fetish falls in line with dominant cultural messages about sex;
It is naughty, dirty, and shameful; a foot fetish may be one outlet through which we reconcile the conflict between our experience of sexual pleasure and negative sexual messages.
After all, one of the most beloved children’s fairy tales revolves around an obsession with a single slipper that fits on the most perfect foot: Cinderella.
The foot has a long history of romantic/erotic associations.
Have you looked at her feet lately?