Some of us are so clouded by society and what our sex life is “suppose” to look like.
We sometimes even struggle with telling our partner the things we sexually think about.
Like the ways, we want to be fucked, and the things we would like to give a try.
We are fearful that we might be too sexual, too demanding, or too open-minded for him.
Well Hunny, that is not your problem if you are too much for him to handle.
And that is ok.
We grow up thinking that a man should be In control at all times.
He is the head of the home, he is the breadwinner, he makes the important decisions.
But time and time again we have seen where the roles have changed or become equal and that extends to our sexual power.
Yes, sex.
We depend so heavily on our man to perform, to give us an orgasm, we expect that he should have no off days when eating our vagina and, we give him full control of the experience.
So, isn’t it time we turn the tables and take a piece out of the control bucket, let’s make him our little bitch, just for the fun of it.
Let’s take control.
Who is a Dominatrix?
A woman who physically or psychologically dominates her partner in a sadomasochistic encounter.
And No! sadomasochistic has nothing to do with Satan.
A sadomasochistic encounter is where someone takes a more submissive role while exploring kink and BDSM.
In layman terms, a dominatrix is a person who takes the dominant role in a bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism (BDSM) relationship.
If you need a refresher on BDSM, skim through 8 Bondage Sex Tips For Beginners real quick, then come right back here.
As a lifestyle Dominatrix, your partner is in service to you while in the bedroom/dungeon.
You take on this persona as another way to add some flavor to your sex life so don’t be afraid and don’t hold back.
After all, you are in control.
But before you can unleash your inner Domme/Dom you must remember that proper behavior, communication, and the procedure is crucial.
This is to not only for fostering a nurturing relationship but also to avoid any physical or psychological trauma to either party.
With that said, let me help you tap into some well-deserved control.
12 Tips To Help You Tap Into Your Dominatrix Side
- Decide what you are comfortable with doing
It is important to establish what you and your partner are comfortable with doing and saying.
A dominatrix should feel comfortable and in control at all times. - Dress in your sexiest, most glamorous outfit, and make him wear his birthday suit
He will enjoy the feeling of being exposed, open, and accessible, while you look like a beautiful and forbidding goddess. - Be confident
You can’t dominate another person unless you are able to take control of the situation.
Focus on the fact that you are in charge.
Do not be afraid to say or do anything, as long as your partner is okay with it. - Maintain good posture
Remember, you hold all of the power, so maintaining good posture subconsciously lets your man know that you are in charge.
Stand straight and hold your head up. - Declare yourself queen for the evening
A little formality will really bring home the fact that your man isn’t calling the shots.
Let him address you with an honorific tone.
For example”Mistress”, “Madam” or “Queen” even your most favored pet name.
Certain positions, as well, emphasize servitude.
Make him sit or kneel on a cushion on the floor, while you relax in the easy chair or stand at attention. - Be open-minded
There is no judgment here so keep your mind clear and open to give and receive but never give away your power.
- Let him worship every inch of your body
Grab some massage oils and order him to give your back, neck, feet, and any other part of your body that needs a rub down.
When you’re all nice and relaxed, make him worship your body, running hands, and lips over every part of it. Taking his time and following your direction.
If you get turned on, show him and tell him.
He might be yearning to make love to you, but he won’t get his chance until you say so, madam queen.
- Tie him up and tease him until he absolutely loses his mind
Invest in a simple set of under the bed restraints.
Try to get these bed restraints–adjustable, washable Velcro straps you can attach to your bed in five minutes and turn it into a great place for safe, easy restraint.
Try stroking and teasing him, or ride him until he’s at the peak of his excitement, then lift off, and leave him frustrated until you’re ready to get back on the horse.
Revel in the freedom to do what you like, playing him like an instrument, while he can relax, knowing you’ve got him right where you want him. - Make the situation about you
It needs to be clear that it is all about you and your pleasures and amusements.
Unless something specific has been requested, do and say whatever you want, as long as it isn’t truly harmful.
- Decide on a safe word with your partner
Typically, the submissive will have a code that tells the dominatrix when they need to stop or hold back.
Ask your partner to come up with a safe word to let you know when to stop. - Be attentive to your partner’s needs
Boss your partner around and stay in control, but be responsive to what they ask for.
Along with being responsive, know when to stop if your partner looks in pain or is unconscious.
Some minor pain may be desired, but your partner should not be truly hurt. - XHave some mind-blowing sex that’s all about what you want
When you’re dominating your man, he gets a whole lot of joy and delight out of pleasing you.
Even if you’re putting your own sexual gratification first for the moment.
Show him exactly how you like to be licked, kissed, teased, and played with.
If you want to have penetrative sex, have it in your favorite position and at your preferred pace.
Show him how to get you off with toys, and make him practice until he gets it right.
And to get his own orgasm, he has to wait until you give him permission.
I hope you are loving this boss bitch mentality, I sure am.
Being a Dom isn’t an easy task but easy to learn and adapt to.
Whatever you and your man decide to try, be sure to talk out your ideas together, go slowly, and always respect boundaries and consent.
Now bow down, bitches!
